In a love affair, mutual understanding is very important, for example understanding each other’s personality and personality. Without understanding this, problems can easily arise and make the relationship stretch, even damage.
Important understanding you have when your partner’s actions or attitudes make you disappointed or angry. Maybe you feel he shouldn’t act that way. In fact, it could be actually it is a human thing that you do not need to overdo. Understand that some things are normally done, for example as follows.
1. Think of the opposite sex as attractive
Your spouse certainly loves you because you find you attractive, whether physically, personally, and so forth. Most likely, he also often praised your strengths. However, what if he finds the opposite sex attractive, even praising him in front of you? Do you need to be disappointed or angry?
Actually no. It is perfectly natural to think that the opposite sex is attractive. Not that, because he has become your partner, then become blind to the charm of others, right? If your partner is amazed by the opposite sex because of his attractive appearance or good character, that means he is still normal.
However, of course such admiration must not be allowed to overdo it. If he considers someone else attractive to want to look away from you, you have the right to be angry. However, as long as it’s just admiration for nothing, you don’t need to worry.
2. Getting bored with your relationship
When just starting a relationship, of course you and your partner feel very flowery, maybe even always want to be together. However, over time, maybe you see that your partner is not as enthusiastic as before. It could be, it’s a sign that he is getting bored with your relationship. However, do you need to be angry because of that?
The answer is no. Having boredom in relationships is a natural thing. Sooner or later, boredom can indeed be felt by anyone, maybe even you yourself will experience it. Maybe not yet, but it could be one day you will get bored with your relationship too. So, why should you be angry?
If you are angry with your partner just because he is bored, he may even become upset. Finally, your relationship is even more tenuous and can be damaged. So, why not try to get rid of boredom, for example by doing new things with him? If the boredom is gone, surely he will return to how it used to be.
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3. Hurt yourself
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There is no love-free relationship. Whether often or rarely, big or small, everyone must have hurt their partner. Likewise with your partner. Therefore, when your partner hurts you, understand that it is a natural thing. That is not proof that he does not love you, but only proof that he is an ordinary human.
By understanding this, it will be easier for you to forgive your partner’s mistakes and not immediately break up. Remember that you must have hurt your partner. So, don’t sue him for never doing the same thing. As you continue to improve, you can still be happy even though you have been hurt several times.
4. Prefer logic or feelings
Your partner may often rely on logic to behave, while you prioritize his feelings. Of course that’s not an absolute thing. But what is clear, is usually everyone has their respective tendencies. There are those who tend to prioritize logic, some are on the contrary.
Therefore, you do not need to be angry if your partner is difficult to be sensitive to the codes that you provide. Maybe he is the type of person who relies more on logic so that his sensitivity is not well trained. It could be the opposite, maybe you feel that your partner tends to be sensitive. That’s natural. Maybe he really is the type of person who feels.
There is nothing wrong with both types because both have advantages and disadvantages. Therefore, whichever type of partner you have, you don’t have to worry about it, let alone demand that it be the same as you. Whose name the couple must be able to accept the difference, right?
5. Don’t want to interact with you for a while
Although in a relationship, of course you and your partner do not constantly interact. He certainly has a busy life and must set aside time with family and friends. Chances are, you don’t mind that. However, what if he doesn’t want to be with you, even though he is not busy?
Do not immediately suspect that he is doing things. It could be, he just wants to enjoy me time aka time for yourself. Me time is everyone’s needs. When me time, someone would want to be alone without being accompanied by anyone, even by loved ones.
Therefore, you don’t need to be prejudiced or feel that your partner is ignoring you. Just let him enjoy his solitude and do not interrupt. When it’s finished, he definitely wants to spend more time with you.
Once again, understanding relationships is very important. Understand that the five things above are natural and humane. Therefore, if your partner does it, you don’t need to react negatively. If you are understanding, he will definitely love you more!
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