Choosing a life partner is something to be done carefully. Life companions are people who will be with you even until you die. You will see him every day, from waking up to going to sleep again. You will share your life with him until death separates. Surely you don’t want any regrets, right?
Before deciding to get married, it’s a good idea to make sure your life companion has the following 10 qualities.
1. Believe, not just religion KTP only
Religion is number one that you must value from someone. If he himself is not afraid of his Lord, doesn’t that mean he is also not afraid to hurt you? If the religion is only limited to the identity of the KTP, lest your marriage will also be limited to the status on the KTP only?
2. Caring but not overprotective
The person you deserve to marry is the one who gives you full trust. He will not forbid you to socialize with anyone. He frees you to make friends with anyone as long as it’s still within reasonable limits. He believes that the more you socialize, the more opportunities you will develop yourself. He believes the trust he has given you will not be broken.
3. Listen and understand
Listening is the most important part of a relationship. The person you deserve to marry is the person who always listens to your complaints without the judgment coming out of him.
If he truly loves you, he will not interrupt your story and will listen to you attentively. Then he will calm you down and give advice to solve your problem.
Marry the person who is open to the problem. Marriage is an openness, there is no secret between you and him. No matter how bitter your partner’s problems are, you should know those problems before you marry them. If there is still something hidden, how can trust arise?
5. Support what you do
A good partner is one who supports all your positive activities. He does not want to take you down, because for him your future is his future too. For him, your success is his success too.
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6. Arguing to solve problems, not to find who is right who is wrong
Adult debate is debating to find solutions to a problem. In mature relationships, there is no longer who is right who is wrong. If your spouse is still debating to find out who is right, who is wrong, then he is not an adult, he is not ready to get married. Because, when you get married later, the problems you both face will be far more severe than before marriage.
7. Want to talk about the future
Before marriage, you are obliged to discuss with him about the vision and mission of marriage, views of money, household duties, residence after marriage, and so on. You must equate perception with your partner. This is important so that what you discussed earlier does not become an atomic bomb in your future married life. If he does not want to discuss the future with you, maybe for him you are not the person who will accompany him in the future.
8. Always proud of yourself
You have to marry someone who is always proud of you. In fact, when you are with your worst appearance, he will still praise you and say how proud he is to have you. He will make you much more confident. He will never insult you in the slightest. For him, you are the proudest thing in his life.
9. Take responsibility
This is one important point that must be owned by your future life partner. Both men and women must have responsibilities in the household. All with their respective portions that must be realized by both parties. With the awareness of responsibility, dhe will try to form a happy home with you. He will also carry out their duties as husband / wife well.
10. Have a healthy outlook on money
You have to make sure that the person you are going to marry is someone who has a healthy outlook on money. That is, look for couples who do not like to spend money.
In addition, he also must understand the importance of investment so that the money he has makes more money. This is important because when entering married life, you have to think about savings, funds for children’s schooling, funds to build houses, sudden funds, pension funds, and so on.
If you already have a partner and are planning to get married, the above 10 qualities you really need to consider. Because marriage is a lifetime compromise with your partner.
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