Sometimes you already consider your friend as a close friend. This assumption arises because you have known each other for quite a long time and often spend time together. However, making someone as a friend is not only measured by how long you know each other. There are some important points that must also be considered.
In fact, if the following seven things you still experience it often indicates that your relationship with him is still limited to ordinary friends. Not close friends, especially friends as you have thought. Ready to prove it?
1. You hesitate when you want to reprimand his bad attitude
If it is true you are a close friend, of course you will not let him fall into negative things. You will firmly give a reprimand to him, even though it will cause you to argue violently.
But if until now you still hesitate to reprimand his bad attitude, it is a sign that you are not yet close enough to be called a friend.
2. When with him you still have faith and cannot be yourself
When with your best friend, you must be very comfortable and can be yourself just the way you are. Want to fart carelessly or eat snacks until smudged, you no longer cover it in front of him. This is because you believe, he is able to accept yourself fully. Complete with your strengths and weaknesses.
But if you are still alone when close to him, it means you have not found complete comfort with him. How can you say that it’s a best friend?
3. You are not the main vent friend
Normally as a friend, you will rely on each other in difficult times. For example, you become his first escape when he has a problem. But if in reality he is not looking for you in difficult times, it could be that you are not considered important enough for him. Not a matter of bother or not, even if he considers you his best friend, then the most comfortable place to confide is in you. Do you agree?
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4. When you have a problem he is not the first person to help
Ideally, friends will help each other when one gets a disaster. You also always volunteered to help him whenever he needed help. But not vice versa. Your friend is ignorant even though you know you are in need of help. As a friend, you should have empathy! If this is the case, you don’t deserve to be called friends!
5. Your secret is never safe in his hand
During this time you never hesitate to tell your personal problems to him. Because you believe he can keep a secret. But the fact is, often times you find him just telling your secret to others. Yes, even though your name isn’t explicitly mentioned. But still such actions will undermine your trust in him. Besides, are you friends from the future?
6. You have heard him mocking you behind you
Worse yet, it is not uncommon for you to hear from others that this “friend of yours” has spoken of your ugliness behind your back. While what you know so far your relationship is fine and there has never been a problem. I wonder why he could gossip about you? If you get caught bad like that, are you still sure that you are true friends?
7. Honestly, you feel you don’t fully know him
Finally, deep down in your heart you really can’t really understand it. Like, what he does not like or what activities become his hobby. Because all this time you only know each other outside.
You just know him from what the eyes see. You rarely talk heart to heart. He also impressed covering himself from you. The proof, you are not the main vent friend even though you have known each other for a long time.
How, are the seven things above similar to your condition now?
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